That's a mad contrast to my school. Teachers would instill the work ethic and push us. For example, when I said I went to Oxford, it was because I went to a philosophy conference there as the teacher put me on a 'gifted and talented' list which was designed to push us. So I went to a few similar events too. Likewise, there were competitions in between schools to do with academics. For example I did some in maths and economics at sixth form. Likewise, there were opportunities for younger pupils to be mentored by older ones and vice versa and I engaged in it both ways. With uni, I got one less grade than expected at A level. So I went to my teacher and she was like "you are capable of the AAA universities, do it" and come the following summer, I made it. I was told to do 2/3 out of 5 universities with higher grades than I got and I was in regular contact with my teachers with applications and academics. My maths teacher nagged me to do maths and I was like "Is economics good enough, sir?" . I feel that if I didn't go to the grammar school and university, a lot of potential would be lost as looking back, I grew intellectually thanks to very talented and passionate teachers. Also around a handful went to Oxbridge, it is very competitive for these universities but our school had support for those applying.